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Chinmayi Sripaada is known for singing songs in films like Chennai Express, Brothers, 96, Sairat, Hasee Toh Phasee, 2 States and others read more
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Popular singer and voice actress Chinmayi Sripaada recently shared a post narrating an incident where her husband & actor Rahul Ravindran, asked their two-year-old daughter for a hug, and when she refused, he respected her decision and didn’t force her. However, her post garnered mixed reactions on Twitter.
An X user reacted to Chinmayi’s post and wrote in Tamil, “Well, if this is the case for a 2-year-old girl child or a boy child, if the mother comes to hug him, would you say the same thing?” The singer replied to the user, “If MY daughter does not want to be hugged by me, her mother, who carried her and her twin brother, and birthed her at ANY given point in time - I’ll let her be until she is ready for a hug.”
She added, “I am not going to force her to hug me because I want it. The same applies to my son. If you don’t get it you do NOT understand consent. And you never will and will keep forcing people and kids to do what YOU want them to do when YOU want it. Across languages the concept of consent is lost on many. No wonder fragile egos cant take no for answer.”
If your daughter didn’t wriggle out and didn’t push you away when you reached for a hug - she has consented. If as a parent you are unable to read a yes or no - nothing more needs to be said.
If you keep forcing her despite her pushing and wriggling out when she wants some… https://t.co/1hcP6domrF
If MY daughter does not want to be hugged by me, her mother, who carried her and her twin brother, and birthed her at ANY given point in time - I ll let her be until she is ready for a hug.
I am not going to force her to hug me because I want it.
The same applies to my son.
Speaking of Consent and Boundaries in a Country that kills their daughter if she marries according to her wish - In a land where Soup Boy who abuses his girlfriend who leaves him - is a Hero.
I routinely have spoken of things which has received massive abuse and a Hurttttu Batch…
One netizen shared his thoughts on Chinmayi’s post and wrote, “You have failed as a human being if your children feel unsafe from you, anyways they are too innocent and naive to start to think like that. Children are of course taught to be wary of strangers, but to be wary from their own parents means you have failed as a human being.” Replying to him, the singer wrote, “My husband told her he respects her autonomy. Any sane man would understand that unfortunately there are more insane men here than anything. And yes I can see how your child’s consent will. Be constantly violated the way you speak.”
The netizen then told Chinmayi, “I can only say people like you distrust humans too much and perhaps you should look into yourselves before blaming others. Not everyone is evil and as I can see, it’s like blowing horns in front of a lazy bull.”
However, some Twitteratis also supported the singer. While one wrote, “Telling a ’no’ to something could be because of various reasons other than feeling unsafe with them,” another tweeted, “It’s true that most children are abused by someone very close, often their own parents. But that’s not even what this is about. A child might not want to hug you for many reasons, if you don’t respect that and force them it only teaches them the lesson that they need to let.”
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